If you pay attention to such things, you might have noticed that the term “Golden Window” was trending on X last week. A real-time algorithm measures the surge in “volume and velocity” of certain words and phrases on the site. If you’re interested, a quick glance will tell you what the online world is buzzing about.
This particular uptick was driven by one man – Brett Caughran, a former hedge fund investor and financial portfolio manager. He also teaches at Arizona State University and is founder of Fundamental Edge, an investment-research training company.
Writing on X to his 60,000 followers, Caughran wisely noted:
We tell young people in our society that the end of the rainbow is retirement at 65. We ought to tell them that “there is going to be this short but beautiful golden window from roughly age 3 to roughly age 12 where your kids are not only easy (comparatively to bottles & diapers), but are going to be these beautiful little creatures and it will pain your heart to be away from them for too long.
Brett and his wife, Jenny, whom he refers to as his “best friend,” have been married for 14 years. They have three boys – ages 13, 11 and 9.
He continued in his post:
You don’t get another shot at living the ‘golden window.’ And, for me, leaning hard into that golden window has made everything else in my life feel fairly insignificant in comparison. I have made plenty of mistakes as a father, but what I won’t have is the regret of having been distracted and absent from these formative years. In some cases, that has required financial sacrifices (declining a particular career opportunity that would have required relocation), but I personally have zero regrets.
The Caughrans’ story is an instructive and inspirational one for anyone trying to navigate the competing demands of family and career, which would be most people of a certain age. For 13 years, Brett was climbing the corporate ladder and working as a hedge fund manager in New York City. He was doing very well financially. But struggling with burnout, he began working with a career coach who asked him a fog-cutting question: “Is this what you want to be doing at 50?”
Brett Caughran knew the answer was “No,” so he quit the job and moved his family to Scottsdale, Arizona. Writing on X, he reflected, “I thought the peace and joy would flow immediately upon the move…remove the stressor and joy arrives, right?”
As it turned out, Brett said he began to spiral into depression.
“I looked around me, and I didn’t feel special…I felt, for the first time in my life, average. I lived in an average house, drove an average car, and lived an average lifestyle. And it hit me harder than I thought it would. And I went through it. I struggled for a solid 18 months. I went through the letting go of my ego, the letting go of the identity that I had been so carefully crafting for nearly 20 years.”
Caughran eventually found his way out of the gloom, immersed himself in fatherhood, and began to appreciate just how special it was to be a dad who was active and present with his young children – boys who wouldn’t remain young forever.
As mothers and fathers of older children know all too well, the “Golden Window” doesn’t stay open very long. It’s a classic but true adage that “The days are long, but the years are short.” This time of year, especially, our social media feeds fill up with mothers and fathers posting about dropping their children off at college. It’s a bittersweet exercise that’s often filled with (happy) tears as the reality settles in that life, for both parent and child, is changing forever.
For the last half-century, Focus on the Family has worked not only to remind mothers and fathers of the ‘Golden Window’ but also to protect what goes in it. Those years of innocence can be threatened by a wicked and fallen culture eager to grab hold of children’s minds and hearts. The season can be corrupted by radical administrators and teachers in some public schools who want to brainwash children.
The ministry’s Plugged In outreach was established to help protect that window, too. It has long been a challenge for parents to sort through the seemingly endless array of movies, television, streaming platforms and video games. Our informed and wise analysts have done the heavy lifting for you and provide thorough online guidance.
Years ago, CNN’s Larry King was being interviewed by Charlie Rose.
“You’re not a father, are you?” Larry asked Charlie.
“No,” answered Rose.
“You miss the great joy of life,” reflected King, who was father to five.
If you’re a parent of a certain age, you’ve likely come to appreciate that a lifetime of success at work will never outpace the pleasures and satisfaction of pouring yourself into the task and privilege of raising a child.
If you still have young children in the home, enjoy the view and breeze from the “Golden Window” – and give thanks to the Lord for this wonderful blessing (Psalm 127:3).